Caregiving can be both exhausting and rewarding. Personally, I’ve found so much positivity through caregiving. Through being of service to my wife, I’ve found my voice and strength I’ve never thought I had. I’ve often wondered what my purpose in life was, and I feel confident in saying that helping my wife where I can has given me direction.
That’s not to say that caregiving is my sole driver in life. I’ve also found myself. Through being apart while my wife was in hospital, it gave me quite a bit of time to reflect on who I was and wanted to be. I’ve always had a constant desire to be helpful to people and try to assist in any way I could, helping my wife has given me an outlet to help and be of service to somebody.
Through my experience caregiving, my opinions and outlook on the world have changed dramatically. For the better I hope. Its made me much more compassionate and understanding towards others. In fact, its been my desire to help others that has driven me to begin this blog. Its been the hope that the experiences of my wife and I would maybe, just maybe, be of benefit to other people.
I imagine I’m not the only one who has found caregiving therapeutic. It can make you feel really good about yourself because you’re giving as opposed to taking from somebody. Plus, what doesn’t kill you can only make you stronger right? How many of us have had dreams growing up of wanting to be a hero? To help others when they need it? To give somebody else a lending hand. I grew up full of those dreams. Dreams of being a doctor, a firefighter, just a good Samaritan, and you know what? I’ve done one better for myself. I’m working with my wife to help both her, and our marriage to thrive.
I feel as though I am a gardener planting a lily. Gently covering it in soil and lovingly watering the seed, and then getting to experience the joy and pleasant serenity in watching this flower grow and bloom. Its an interesting thought because it doesn’t matter how much I water that seedling, it still has to break through all the dirt and pull itself up. Teamwork. I can’t just will that flower to grow, there has to be work on both ends. While the journey may be different for the flower than the gardener, they need each other. Because without the determined lily, the gardener’s flowerbed wouldn’t be the same, would it?
To all the lilies out there, Keep breaking through that soil so us gardeners can enjoy watching you thrive.